I was raised by a single mother. She was the epitome of kindness and grace. She was also judge and executioner when I let her down. I tried to do this as little as possible.
One time seeking to elevate myself from one to many self-assessments as an under achieving 7th grader I decided to smoke following the example of my peers. My only real friends at the time were books. I sorely wanted to be accepted.
On the way home crossing the school campus I had wrapped a strip of a paper bag torn earlier that morning. My mother’s friends in those days came to visit with a cigarette. Sometime, certainly without my mother’s knowledge I would add dry milk to the wrapper hoping to smoke it. I failed having burned my lip in lighting the “cigarette.”
This time walking across the campus I had added very small bits of tobacco found in the ash trays from home. Determined to be seen smoking I lifted the cigarette to my lips. My sister Sherry, a year younger and the brain trust of this little family saw me.
I was aghast. She said she would tell mom. She rushed home to do so. Fast.
When I arrived home mother whose life was emblazoned with virtue sat me down. She did not raise her voice. She did not reprimand me.
She said, “You let me down.” Then she got up and left the room.
Her words reverberated with me over the course of my life. I never smoked again. I did not wish to bring shame to her. For me smoking and hurting my mother were thresholds.
My mother saw in me great potential.
That is leadership.
She wanted me to love virtue. To be a man who worked more on the inside than being seen.
She patiently and lovingly let me choose my own way and move at my own pace.
You may have felt the power of such efficacious leadership where you live and work.
Whatever your experiences in families and in the presence of humble leadership you know unity is strong when it is bound together in unselfish love.
You know how precious and fragile that bond is in this challenging world where we are purposefully here to learn to be better.
We must be authentic humble leaders at home and at work.
Our duties are priceless gifts to make each of us and all we encounter better. We are agents to act and not acted upon. No one should have to prod us into being a consistent example of execution and virtue.
We can exercise patience, personal obedience to virtues and principles that we teach our children and often forget when no one’s looking.
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